Chasing Space, Finding Self

Chasing Space, Finding Self

Oct 3, 2025 | Uncategorized

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At the end of our lives, what will we think about? Will we remember those ‘important’ projects at work that diverted our attention from our children as they struggled to get our attention? Or will we remember what it felt like when our kids were old enough to no longer have time for us either?

Chasing Space

I saw a reel on social media the other day that tore me up, as the main message was that the majority of what we focus on in our daily lives is not only forgettable but damaging. Is the fact that AI exists and can perform half the tasks I do every day exciting, or does it underscore the futility of my own existence?

What am I chasing? What are any of us chasing? Do any of us even know? The more I chase this idea I have in my head as to what constitutes the ‘better life,’ the farther I am from this better life and, in fact, myself.

I once had someone refer to me as a ‘PR guy,’ as if the whole of my existence could be encapsulated in that term. That characterization made me ill then, and it makes me upset today.

This is the best I can do? I’m a PR guy? This is my contribution to the world? To write marketing pieces about products or services that may or may not be that worthwhile or great, but I am paid to tell a story, and so I spin someone else’s ideas into a 350-word structure that is as forgettable as it is forced?

What am I doing? I am chasing space.

Finding Space

Now, I am the space doctor, armed with a doctorate and an abstract concept that I peddle through various digital marketing channels to people I think I know enough or I would not put proverbial pen to paper, right?

What do I know? How do I know it? Where did I acquire my knowledge?

I took the academic pathway, too afraid to state an opinion and most certainly too uncertain to take a stand on anything. Perhaps that is my white privilege. I am unsure.

With the onset of fall, I feel myself more reflective, perhaps bitter that summer went too fast. Perhaps I am bitter, however, at my choices in life that I diverted my attention not just from my kids when they were 8 and wanted to play catch with daddy but from the journey into myself, which is the ultimate unknown.

Everywhere we turn today, someone has an answer to something or to a question we eventually believe we must have asked at some point. Yeah, I want to know the 5 secrets to develop great content. Sure, I want to create viral reels that people remember for a whole ten seconds before scrolling somewhere else.

Where has the time gone? How on earth am I on the other side of 50 years? This is impossible. All I ever wanted out of life was to live forever. Is that too much to ask?

Changing Space

When I talk about space, it is not an abstraction. Space is historical, and it invites an inquiry into the past and the lives that preceded our own. Space is literal in that we have bodies that move, dance, play, cry, and laugh. Space is metaphorical only in the sense that there is nothing that it can not not be, and so where does that leave us?

Like the Robinsons in that wild 60’s TV show, we are lost in space, spinning on a rock that circles a sun inside a galaxy that circles other galaxies in a universe so large that it takes 13.5 billion years to cross it if we were to travel 186,000 miles per second. That is not 55 miles per hour or 10,000 miles a minute, but 186,000 miles per second for 13.5 billion years.

At the end of our lives, what will we think about? However you and I answer that question, let’s agree to start thinking about that now instead of later…

About Spaciology

Spaciology is not abstract theory; rather, it is a practice you can feel.

  • Inside: Pause, breathe, notice.
  • Outside: Design rooms, rituals, and agendas that slow the spin and invite care.
  • Between us: Make dialogue a place where different truths can live together long enough to teach something.

Ultimately, leadership is the art of making space for what’s important (for everyone) and letting that clarity shape the next step. When we change the spaces from which we lead, our strategies change with them.

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The Meaning of Freedom

The Meaning of Freedom

Aug 3, 2025 | Big Questions

Freedom, NH Town Hall

This past weekend, I had occasion to visit Freedom, NH for their Old Home Week Celebration—an experience that changed my perspective on what it means to be human.

Yes, this sounds dramatic, but transformation of perspective is not a process that abstractly happens in a person’s head. Rather, it is an embodied experience that can be significantly enhanced in the presence of others.

Certainly, I have had my fair share of enlightening experiences in academic settings. I have cried after reading some academic literature, and I have felt my entire body tingle when people consciously bring their complete selves to dialogues.

More than Pancakes

What I found beautiful about the celebration in Freedom this weekend was captured in their pancake breakfast this morning. I witnessed neighbors hugging, people smiling, folks donating resources and time to bring people together over plates of fruit, donuts, pancakes, eggs, and sausage.

I sat at a table with strangers and learned about a woman’s love of this town, where she lives, and how several events from this past week were to contribute to the education of kids. I overhead conversations and listened to the stories of people I may never see again.

What I most remember, however, was the smiles on people’s faces—people of all ages, brought together in a town hall that looked like something from a Normal Rockwell postcard. The event was free, but people were encouraged to bring food or cash to support the local food pantry. I brought cash.

Seeking Connection

As I sat and observed the people around me, I felt like I was part of something intimate and yet much larger than just me. I was witnessing humanity at its best.

Why did I drive 20 minutes for a breakfast I could have made for myself with my beautiful mountain views? For the same reason everyone else made their way to a small town hall on the eastern edges of New Hampshire on a gorgeous summer morning.

We wanted to connect, get roped into conversations with strangers, watch kids eat pancakes with their little fingers, and watch other people watch us watch them and smile.

Creating Space for New Friends

There is so much ugliness in this world, and there always has been. There is so much beauty in this world, too, and we do not need to look far to find it.

We cannot systematically address the ills of this world, but we can break bread—or pancakes—with our neighbors.

I do not know if the people at this breakfast were Republicans or Democrats. I did not speak with anyone about their political views.

I drank coffee and ate too many pancakes, and I smiled at strangers who often smiled at me first. In today’s experience, Space as Metaphor was more than a metaphor. It existed in a town hall in Freedom, NH, and the only way I discovered it is because I was there.

Sharing Space

Space as Metaphor is not an invitation to abstraction. It is an invitation to share our lives with others and move beyond the conventional labels invented by men who do not know you or me.

When we define one another with simplistic words, we reduce one another to caricatures. It is both sad and painful because we are much more than any single word can possibly fathom.

So what is the meaning of Freedom? I am not entirely sure, except I am certain it is a shared experience, one made much more memorable over pancakes and laughter.

Ultimately, the meaning exists in my heart, and I have strangers in a small town in NH whom I can thank for this humble reminder. We are human beings and we belong to one another—and that is the true meaning of Freedom.

About Spaciology

Spaciology is not abstract theory; rather, it is a practice you can feel.

  • Inside: Pause, breathe, notice.
  • Outside: Design rooms, rituals, and agendas that slow the spin and invite care.
  • Between us: Make dialogue a place where different truths can live together long enough to teach something.

Ultimately, leadership is the art of making space for what’s important (for everyone) and letting that clarity shape the next step. When we change the spaces from which we lead, our strategies change with them.

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The Radical Limits of Prescriptive Approaches

The Radical Limits of Prescriptive Approaches

Jul 3, 2025 | The Method

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There is a certain comfort in a playbook: step one, step two, step three—a promise of order in a world that feels increasingly chaotic. In the workplace, in organizations, and even in our personal lives, we often reach for guides and checklists in the hope they will deliver us from conflict or confusion into clarity and connection.

What if the very structure of the playbook is the problem?

The Seduction—and Failure—of the Linear

Many traditional approaches to personal and organizational conflict and transformation are obsessed with the prescriptive: “Do this, then that, and you’ll get the result you want.”

These methods can be helpful for addressing surface-level issues, but they rarely address the underlying causes. In fact, they often reinforce the very boundaries—emotional, relational, and systemic—that keep us isolated and reactive (Levey, 2024; Pipere & Lorenzi, 2021).

This is not a theoretical critique. In my own research and experience, I have seen how these approaches can leave us feeling more alone, more entrenched, and less able to respond creatively to the complexity of real life. The proverbial playbook, for all its promises, is a map that refuses to acknowledge the terrain has changed (Levey, 2024).

Embodiment: The Missing Radical Act

What is missing from the ‘playbook’ is embodiment. Embodiment is not just “being present” or “mindfulness” as a buzzword. It is the radical act of bringing the whole self—body, emotion, history, and relationship—into the process of transformation.

As I argue in my dissertation, this is a move away from the linear, heroic, individualistic journey toward a more spacious, relational, and collective way of being (Levey, 2024; Dall’Alba & Barnacle, 2007).

Embodiment means that transformation is not something that happens “out there,” or in the abstract, but in the lived, felt experience of our bodies and our relationships. It is a process that is messy, nonlinear, and often uncomfortable. It is also, crucially, a process that cannot be scripted in advance (Levey, 2024; Franklin-Phipps, 2020).

Dialogue as Embodied Practice: Making Space Real

This is where dialogue comes in—not as mere communication, but as an embodied act. Communication, in its most common form, is transactional: information is exchanged, positions are stated, and the goal is often persuasion or agreement.

Dialogue, by contrast, is a practice of presence. It is a way of being-with, of inhabiting the space between self and other, of listening with the whole body and allowing oneself to be changed by the encounter (Levey, 2024, pp. 116-117; Bakhtin, 1986).

In Spaciology—my framework for transformation—which draws from Indigenous, Eastern, and transdisciplinary wisdom, dialogue is not a tool for consensus or conflict resolution. It is a method for inhabiting space together, for witnessing and being witnessed, for allowing the boundaries between us to become more porous. Dialogue is not about winning or losing, but about opening—a process that is as much somatic as it is semantic (Pipere & Lorenzi, 2021).

This is a crucial distinction. Communication can happen without embodiment; dialogue cannot. Dialogue, in its truest sense, is an embodied act of resistance against the inherited norms and power structures that keep us apart. It is a way of creating new spaces—through vulnerability, collective care, and shared movement—where authentic connection and transformation can flourish (Levey, 2024, pp. 116-117; Moore, 2018).

Spaciology—my framework for transformation—makes this explicit: space is not just a metaphor, but a lived, relational field. Dialogue is what makes space real. Without dialogue, “space” remains an abstraction. With dialogue, it becomes a living, breathing context for change (Levey, 2024, pp. 142-150; EcoDialogues, 2024).

Dialogue, Belief, and Organizational Culture

These potential new spaces are not just metaphorical, as they refer to the changing of beliefs and assumptions, which translates directly into new organizational cultures.

When we engage in authentic dialogue that is embodied, vulnerable, and open—we create the conditions for shifts in perspective to take place. Research across organizational studies, transformative learning, and my own research all support the claim that authentic dialogue creates spaces where real change happens—not when people are forced or coerced, but when they willingly shift their perspective (Mezirow, 1978; Levey, 2024, pp. 96-101; Pipere & Lorenzi, 2021; Burbules & Bruce, 2001).

This is the heart of Spaciology—not a playbook, but an invitation—a call to inhabit our lives, relationships, and organizations as open, generative spaces. By dissolving the walls around our hearts through embodied, spatial practices, we engage in a form of creative resistance that is both deeply personal and profoundly collective.

An attention to all spaces is how we move from separation to belonging, from rigidity to flow, from inherited boundaries to co-created possibility (Levey, 2024, pp. 142-150; Massey, 2005).

The Evidence for Dialogue

All kinds of research support the notion that authentic dialogue is the space where shifts in perspective occur (Pipere & Lorenzi, 2021; Levey, 2024, p. 117; Burbules & Bruce, 2001; Moore, 2018). Real change happens when people willingly shift their perspective—not when they reach for a playbook with the same “plays.”

Dialogue is not just a method, but an embodied, relational, and transformative act that changes not only what we do, but who we are in our personal, shared, and ecological spaces.

References

Bakhtin, M. (1986). Speech genres and other late essays (C. Emerson & M. Holquist, Eds., V. W. McGee, Trans.). University of Texas Press.

Burbules, N. C., & Bruce, B. C. (2001). Theory and research on teaching as dialogue. In V. Richardson (Ed.), Handbook of research on teaching (4th ed., pp. 1102–1121). American Educational Research Association.

Dall’Alba, G., & Barnacle, R. (2007). An ontological turn for higher education. Studies in Higher Education, 32(6), 679–691. https://doi.org/10.1080/03075070701685130

EcoDialogues. (2024). Space as Metaphor, Dialogue as Method: Brief Overview [PDF]. UYM Charities.

Franklin-Phipps, A. (2020). Historical interludes: The productive uncertainty of feminist transdisciplinarity. In C. A. Taylor, C. Hughes, & J. Ulmer (Eds.), Transdisciplinary feminist research (pp. 29–42). Routledge.

Levey, R. (2024). Embodying Transdisciplinarity: An Alternate Narrative Framework to the Hero’s Journey as a Tool for Transformation [Doctoral dissertation, California Institute of Integral Studies].

Massey, D. (2005). For space. SAGE.

Mezirow, J. (1978). Perspective transformation. Adult Education Quarterly, 28(2), 100–110. https://doi.org/10.1177/074171367802800202

Moore, S. A. (2018). Radical listening: Transdisciplinarity, restorative justice and change. World Futures, 74(7–8), 471–489. https://doi.org/10.1080/02604027.2018.1485436

Pipere, A., & Lorenzi, F. (2021). The dialogical potential of transdisciplinary research: Challenges and benefits. World Futures: The Journal of General Evolution, 77(8), 559–590.
https://doi.org/10.1080/02604027.2021.1875673

About Spaciology

Spaciology is not abstract theory; rather, it is a practice you can feel.

  • Inside: Pause, breathe, notice.
  • Outside: Design rooms, rituals, and agendas that slow the spin and invite care.
  • Between us: Make dialogue a place where different truths can live together long enough to teach something.

Ultimately, leadership is the art of making space for what’s important (for everyone) and letting that clarity shape the next step. When we change the spaces from which we lead, our strategies change with them.

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Space as Praxis: Making Room for What Matters

Space as Praxis: Making Room for What Matters

Jun 6, 2025 | Uncategorized

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Space begins within—and when we pause and resist the reflex to respond, fix, or judge, we create the conditions for clarity. This is not a passive space but a form of active receptivity.

“Stillness is not stagnation. It is what allows the unseen to surface.”

In practice, internal space could look like:

  1. Taking 5 minutes to breathe before a difficult decision,
  2. Journaling not to fix your thinking, but to see it,
  3. Asking “What is  here that I’m avoiding?” instead of “What should I do?”

Space makes reflection possible. Without it, we default to reaction. With it, we find presence (and ourselves).

External Space: Designing Environments That Reflect Intention

Our surroundings—physical spaces or organizational cultures—help shape our thoughts, feelings, and ability to relate to anything.

“The room you’re in speaks before you do.”

To apply space practically in the external realm:

  1. Declutter a workspace so it reflects the clarity you seek,
  2. Design meetings with planned moments of silence,
  3. Ask, “What kind of space would allow everyone here to feel seen (or heard)?”

External space is both literal and symbolic. When we shift external space(s) with intention, we communicate something powerful: you matter here.

Shared Space: The Art of Holding Together What We Cannot Solve Alone

Shared space is the realm of dialogue, collaboration, and community. It is what happens between us—not owned or controlled, but co-created.

“Shared space isn’t about agreement. It’s about making room for truths to sit side by side.”

To hold shared space in practice:

  1. Begin conversations by naming intentions rather than outcomes,
  2. Allow silence in dialogue—not everything needs a response,
  3. Model curiosity over certainty

Shared space requires a posture of mutual presence, not persuasion. It is what allows complexity to breathe and transformation to occur collectively.

The Ethics of Spaciousness

Creating space is an ethical act. In a culture of speed, certainty, and consumption, space feels inefficient. Inefficiency, however, is often where life actually happens.

“Making space means making room for others—not just their ideas, but their being.”

To practice ethical spaciousness:

  1. Resist urgency when it flattens complexity
  2. Invite voices that are usually missing
  3. Trust that emergence needs time, contradiction, and care

Key Considerations

Space is not emptiness; rather, it is the precondition for emergence.

  1. Internal space fosters awareness and emotional intelligence,
  2. External space shapes behavior and communicates values,
  3. Shared space enables trust, empathy, and collective transformation.

Creating space is not about doing less—it is about doing with more intention.

Closing Reflection

When we stop trying to fill every moment, fix every problem, or finalize every answer, we return to something more elemental: the quiet, expansive possibility of being (and becoming).

In a world aching for solutions, perhaps what is most needed is not more action—but more space…

About Spaciology

Spaciology is not abstract theory; rather, it is a practice you can feel.

  • Inside: Pause, breathe, notice.
  • Outside: Design rooms, rituals, and agendas that slow the spin and invite care.
  • Between us: Make dialogue a place where different truths can live together long enough to teach something.

Ultimately, leadership is the art of making space for what’s important (for everyone) and letting that clarity shape the next step. When we change the spaces from which we lead, our strategies change with them.

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